When I was 32 and just out of University, I'd been signed to Warner/Chappell and I'd recently written a song called 'I Don't Think It's True', which was attracting a bit of attention as it sounded a little bit like an Alanis Morissette track. I received a letter from a NY record company asking me to send more songs (which I didn't have in that style), and another record company in Sydney called me in for a meeting as well.
This meeting was interesting and scary because at 32, I was already considered too old in an industry that was male dominated and extremely ageist. As I sat down for my meeting, I was confused by the conversation that ensued. I had been told by the woman who set the meeting up, (and remember, SHE rang ME), that Mr X really LOVE LOVE LOVED my song and wanted to meet with me. Mr X however, clearly wasn't so enamoured as I appeared before him, although I've never known exactly what was going on in his head. He pressed the play button, turned my song right down low, and exclaimed "Is this the song"? O..........M...........G!!!!!
I had spent my last few dollars getting myself to this meeting and I'd gone to a lot of trouble to dress myself up and look good. The female awkwardly offered me a coffee which I passed on, and I was shortly being ushered out of the building.
She drove me to the nearest station, and on the way there she asked one question......
"How old are you Trysette"? BAMM!!!! I knew it!!!
How did they figure that out? I've always looked younger than my years or so I'm told. I'm thinking she did some research after calling me for the interview. Unfortunately for me, she let it all slide and let me suffer the humiliation and inconvenience. She could have at least bought me lunch! hahaha!
So here's my point. I fell victim to this kind of attitude for many years and I even believed in the myth to the point where I was too afraid to let people know my age for fear they would look at me differently somehow, or change their perception of me as an artist. Ironically, I'm now 20 years older and my age has never mattered less! At 52, I'm able to let go of all those worries about what the "industry" wants or expects or requires of me to be the human I was born to be. I'm in charge of my own career, direction and choices about how I bring joy to peoples' lives through my music. That's it. That's what it's about for me.
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